Mommy minutes

1. Your “baby blues” don’t get better. It’s common to have a dip in mood during your baby’s first 2 weeks. After that, you should feel better. But if you’re still sad or even hopeless weeks later, and the feelings are growing intense, that’s more than the blues.
2. Sadness or guilt consume your thoughts. Feeling upset once in a while is normal. But if you have crying spells, or you often feel unhappy about being a parent, or you’re often "down on yourself" as a mom, these may be among the first signs of postpartum depression.
3. You lose interest in things you enjoy. Are you laughing at your favorite romantic comedy? Are you interested in being affectionate with your partner? What about your favorite foods? Are you enjoying them? Are you eating at all? If you said no, talk to your doctor about these changes in mood and habits.
4. You have trouble making decisions. Maybe you’re too tired to think straight. Maybe you just don’t care. If you can’t decide whether or not to get out of bed, take a shower, change your baby’s diaper, or take her for a walk, these may be early signs of postpartum depression.
5. You worry you won’t be a good mom. Who hasn’t worried about this? It’s common among moms whose babies are sick or premature, or were born with special needs. But if this is not your situation, then having constant doubts about yourself as a mother could mean something else.
6. Your sleep patterns have changed. Of course they have. You have a baby! But if you can’t even rest when your child is napping, or you’re sleeping all the time, that’s likely something other than a new sleep pattern.
7. You’ve had big, stressful changes in your life. Maybe you’ve been fighting with your partner, or your family isn’t helping you care for your baby. Perhaps someone you loved died a short time ago. Stressful events like these can worsen your sadness and trigger postpartum depression.
8. You think about harming yourself. Thoughts of suicide, or hurting yourself or your baby, are advanced signs of postpartum depression and even postpartum psychosis, a rare and serious mental illness that happens with postpartum depression. If you’re having any kind of suicidal thoughts, you’re in crisis and need to call your doctor.
All these signs no one really will talk about. This can even happen during the pregnancy and continue long after. People think you have changed because of this and it just gets worse and worse. I've come realize that it’s best to just shut yourself away because a doctor is just going to want give you depression drugs. My family don’t see me way use to. However they don’t realize all the changes in our life. I went from one kids living her full time now 3 with one travel back fourth. Now the mess is bigger than before. Having a baby needs your attention 24/7. When someone does not get the right break ever it can drive anyone crazy. When the mother turns into stay at home mother because daycare will cost to much and fact other kids needs transportation it can drive anyone nuts. Like me I miss working I miss earning my money I worked hard for. I love my children but things cost money and when I cant provide it upsets me even more. However, making the mother deal with the newborn all time even when other parent is sitting at home is wrong. If other parent cant help by watching the child even for a hour shows you don’t respect that mother and want to help her. When you tell mother number times she don’t work and talk down to her it puts more things running threw her head. This will put anyone in a deeper depression than before. Personally I’ve been called number nasty names and my sorry was threw a text. Real person would say it face to face and try harder. Not put all the blame on you because of your moods. Everyday I wake up wishing sometimes I would died during my car accident. My family be so much better with out me in it. However, here I am dealing with the pain almost year later from that. However, here I am now doing same shit everyday. My husband hates me with passion because of my moods and gets drunks and yells at me more. I still cant forgive the things he said to me because I really didn’t get a true sorry. I even left for few days come back and I’m suppose to forget what he said. No I cant forget but I’m the wrong person. I’m someone who like affection I like attention and a basement and other children get that more than me. Blame is he has work so much because I don’t. No reason every night you can spend few hours with the family instead of sitting in basement on computer doing website you are not making nothing on. To fix how many photos and think I care when I don’t. Why don’t I because the children n I get no time. So me being nasty and rude is for reason. And by ignoring me more and more will just push me away fast. I already don’t feel welcomed in this house because I’m just everyone’s salve. What’s point me staying with someone who hates me and hates my children and cant be man and say sorry to my face and cant show a change and try cheer me up. Nope instead I’m on being blamed for it all. When I cant even get a kiss. Our new daughter don’t even know what it’s like look at her father because he never spends time with her but 5 minutes a day and God forbid he watches her few hours one night and flips shit. Why she was fussy let’s see because you need spend more time with her. However that don’t happen. If wife cant get time or your daughter. But driving around playing stupid pokemon go you can do put that first before anyone. I get everyone goes threw struggles but keeping it all in can hurt someone so here I laid it all out since my husband will get mad if I talk about my feeling because well he don’t like to told what to do or listen. So my advice for anyone with this problem don’t keep it in because it will eat you alive turn you crazy.

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